Talking about the Forbidden
Recently a female client in a DBT group I run, wanted to discuss her fascination with abusive sex, mainly receiving it. This was a problem of course, as it began to trigger other female clients in the group.
But her questions were good ones, so after talking through some of the issues with the triggered clients, I started a little research project.
There is an online site called Fetish Life or fetlife.com. It is mostly straight though there are gay members. I was impressed with the level of sharing, articulation and empathy among its member s and it’s FREE! For some members it seemed helpful and empowering to talk about their reasons for taking ‘control mastery’, that is taking control and recreating a sexually traumatic situation from their past.
I highly recommend this site as a place to share thoughts and actions on taboo sexual subjects. It is amazingly well done and the members are quite supportive.
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Shawn Nichols
